The REAL secret to losing weight! by Ryan Hassell

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The REAL secret to losing weight! by Ryan Hassell

Courtesy of: www.rh-nutrition.co.uk

Ever since the 3rd century BC, people have been looking for the 1 secret behind looking and feeling great. This search is still happening today, but what if I told you that this ‘secret’ has already been found?

The secret everyone is looking for is right under their noses. I wanted to help with this search so I am going to reveal this secret now.

The secret to changing your weight is actually very simple. All you need to do is create a negative energy balance.

What is a negative energy balance?

The simplest way to describe this is ‘calories‘. But before we can change it we need to know what it is:

Each day your body needs to burn energy to stay alive. You needs energy to pump blood round your body, digest food, repair your muscles, etc. There are trillions of cells that use and recreate energy every second during rest and during exercise. This is called your metabolism.

Metabolism = the sum of reactions that take place to build up and break down the body.

Your metabolism can be broken down into 5 different components:

1. Basal metabolic rate (BMR)

2. Resting metabolic rate (RMR)

3. Thermic effect of feeding (TEF)

4. Exercise activity

5. Non-exercise activity thermogenesis (NEAT)

Adding all these up will give you the amount of energy you burn in any given time frame.

Now don’t worry about the terminology it’s actually simpler than it sounds.

Your basal metabolic rate is the minimum amount of energy expenditure needed to maintain vital functions of the body. In essence, your BMR is the amount of energy needed to stay alive without movement or digestion.

Now you can measure your BMR but it can be very difficult and expensive as it needs to be done under strict laboratory conditions.

A much easier way to find out how much energy you burn is to calculate your resting metabolic rate. This is measured in a similar way using oxygen consumption but the measurement is taken at rest.

The thermic effect of feeding is just the amount of energy you burn to digest, absorb and assimilate the nutrients in your food.

Exercise activity kind of speaks for itself. This is the amount of energy you burn when doing purposeful exercise. Things like running, weight lifting and swimming.

Non-exercise activity thermogenesis sounds scary but NEAT is just the amount of energy you burn moving around doing your daily activities. This could be walking to the shops, fidgeting, caring for children or taking the dog for a walk.

I don’t really want to go into all the scientific stuff, I like to keep things simple. But if you’re the type of person who loves to know the science, Precision Nutrition have a great article called ‘All about energy balance‘ check it out to get more in depth.

Estimating your energy needs

So now we know how your body uses energy, next what we want to do is find out how much energy you need.

The most accurate and most commonly used method of doing this is called the ‘Harris-Benedict equation for RMR’. The equation looks like this:

For men

RMR (in kcal/day) = 66.5 + (13.75 x weight in KG) + (1.85 x height in cm) – (4.68 x age in years)

For women

RMR (in kcal/day) = 655 + (9.56 x weight in KG) + (0.5 x height in cm) – (6.76 x age in years)

For example = A 35 year old male who weights 100kg, and is 180cm their RMR would be:

66.5 + (13.75 x 100) + (1.85 x 180) – (4.68 x 35) = 1610.7 kcal per day.

Note: No equation is perfect and is considered acceptable to predict RMR within 10% of the actual measured value.

However, if you are obese or one of the people who this equation doesn’t really work for then the answer could be off by as much as 43%!

An easier way to do this would be to use the table below, this way you can estimate your total calories needed, not just your RMR:

 The rule of energy balance

Now that you know how much energy you need, i’m going to start to go into the weight loss secret.

Your estimated calories is like your turning point for your body.

If you consume over that amount of calories then you will gain weight, if you consume under that amount of calories you will lose weight. If you consume exactly that amount your weight will stay the same.

It’s really that simple!

All you need to do to lose weight is consume less calories than you burn each day. The bigger the gap between how much you consume and how much you burn, the more weight you will lose.

This is called a negative energy balance. If you we’re to eat more then you would be in a positive energy balance. And eating just right would mean your energies are in balance.

Now, before you start to plan a starvation diet, let me give you the big reveal.

The real secret!

The truth is that counting calories is actually more harmful than you think.

 In fact in our coaching program we don’t recommend it at all. Our clients don’t have to count a single calorie.

In fact we have a calorie counting guide which you can download for FREE. Just click here to see why calorie counting is a waste of time.

Here’s the big secret, and the reason people can’t see it.

In a healthy person, appetite generally corresponds with daily energy needs.

The calorie estimation you made is already hardwired into your body via your hunger levels. And that is what people don’t realize.

So what can you do to make sure you’re eating enough to lose weight?

What to do now?

 To ensure you are eating enough, I recommend following the below simple rules:

 1. Eat slowly – it takes about 20 minutes for your body to realize that you have eaten something, so aim for 20-30 minute meals.

 2. Eat to 80% full – this will help you to make sure you are not going over that energy tipping point. Ask your self every so often, ‘how full am I between 1 and 10?’. If the answer is 8 or higher then stop eating.

 3. Eat more lean protein, colorful veggies and healthy fats. – Unfortunately our bodies haven’t adapted to the western diet so eating calorie dense foods like cookies and cake won’t register in your bodies hunger bar.

 4. Eat minimally processed carbs only after a workout. – You’re body uses up a lot of carbs during a workout so ensure to refuel with healthy carbs like brown rice, potatoes or quinoa. Although they are healthy it’s easy to eat too much of them so keep them to after workouts only.

 Try one or all of these rules and see how it works for you.

 If you’re new to health and fitness then check out our post ‘how to get going when you’re just starting out‘. It has loads of great tips on how to set yourself up for success.

Feeling stuck in life?

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RISE® Self-Esteem is a unique tool to boost your self-esteem and self-confidence, build resilience and help you move forward in life. Because RISE® is based on the findings of Emotional Intelligence, it is the only method which connects emotions to behavior and enables participants to attain rapid and lasting results.  The method achieves incredibly impactful results because of its simplicity and ease of use; enabling you to significantly improve your self-esteem in just 3-8 minutes per day over a 3-month period.

Liberate yourself from limiting beliefs and low self-esteem. RISE will give you the keys to break old patterns, feel better and gain control in life. With RISE® you will build a high level of Self-Esteem that will transform your life.

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An Awesome Review Site

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Review sites are commonplace on the internet today, but many of them are unreliable. So many of these sites are thinly veiled affiliate marketers promoting preferred products, or are simply one ordinary person’s opinion. Equally, user reviews posted to sites like Amazon can often be fake or poor quality, leaving people unsure of what they can trust. ReviewsBee is a newly launched concept that aims to solve this problem once and for all, with meta-analysis informed top tens on a huge range of products. Reviews Bee is a perfect new way to research products and sift through the available knowledge. It developed an algorithm that included all the information discerned from various websites for a complete, unbiased review. In gathering data for products, the algorithm explores expert and consumer review sites and notes important facts from all of them. 5 factors are included in the algorithm: Expert Popularity Score, Expert Ratings, Consumer Popularity Score, Consumer Ratings and Consumer Complaints. This offers a more complete overview of each product…. Check it out at www.reviewsbee.com

The Link Between Self-Judgment and Depression

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Check out this great blog post about ways to overcome self-judgment….

Courtesy of: http://www.chandpsych.com/2016/10/12/the-link-between-self-judgment-and-depression-and-how-you-can-break-it/

The Link Between Self-Judgment and Depression and How You Can Break It

How you think about yourself, how you talk to yourself, and how you evaluate yourself matters. You know that.
But something in you still drives your mean-spirited commentary.
“How could you do something so stupid.”

“Obviously you’re not the right person for this job.”
“Of course someone like you will always be alone.”
That voice in your head–your voice–is unrelenting. You’re your own bully, filled with self-judgment and condemnation. And what happens when you’ve thoroughly run yourself down for that last decision, thought, or idea? You just feel overwhelmingly sad and worthless.
Because if you’re prone to self-judgment, then you’re probably prone to depression too. Feeling like you just can’t do anything right naturally gives birth to a sense of worthlessness and hopelessness.
So, how do you feel better when you can’t escape your own malignant monologue?
To stop the pain you keep inflicting on your yourself, you’ve got to break that unhealthy, inner reaction. It’s time to give yourself a good talking to. Come up with a plan to break up with that cold inner critic. Dissolve ties with depression and move forward freer and lighter.

Sounds good, right? Except that if you could do all that on your own, it’d be done.
Unfortunately, a harsh inner voice is so insidious because no one else can hear it. The resulting depression is so destructive because it’s invisible. It slowly isolates you from your joy, your loved ones, and negatively impacts your self-esteem.
To make a change, you need help, tools, and a game plan. Let’s look at how you can break the link between self-judgement and depression and learn to treat yourself with more self-compassion and tolerance.
Always start with awareness.
Pay attention to the times you really lay into yourself. Are you in emotional pain? Trying to protect yourself from pain? Acknowledge your depression, call it what it is and accept that both the way you deal with yourself and your emotions requires intervention.
Learn to be more curious and less critical.
It’s time to get to the bottom of your self-inflicted cruelty. Ask some questions. Allow your therapist to walk you through the “hows” and “whys” of your self-perception. When did you start feeling so inadequate? Is that your perception, or is your inner critic repeating sentiments shared with you by others early in life? A therapist or support group are good places to get to know yourself better and arrive at some clarity.
Be patient and productive.
Negative self-judgements get in your way. They keep you from your best life, stuck and cornered by depression. But as counterproductive as self-judgment can be, so too is pushing yourself to change the thought patterns of a lifetime in too short a time.
Allow yourself the time to change and gift yourself with the guidance of a therapist to help you heal. It will take work to uncover, recognize, and manage ineffective thinking patterns and unhelpful thoughts. Depression does not simply go away.
Working with support will help you see your depression clearly. It is more than malaise, anger, or that sick, hopeless feeling. A productive plan for therapy and treatment shines a light on how connected your self-judgment and depression really are. From there, recovery is possible.
Reframe your thoughts and retrain your brain.
To change your mind will require new mental tools. A therapist trained in cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) can help you recognize how the ways you think and speak about yourself feeds the isolating, self-defeating behavior that drives the depressive cycle in your life. The National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) notes that CBT is an effective treatment for depression. With CBT, you can find new ways to think about yourself and transform the inactivity of depression into more useful, purposeful action.
Learn, too, about mindfulness meditation and techniques.
You can learn to notice your thoughts without any further judgement and let them go. Awareness of when you run yourself down can be observed, released, and simply considered opportunities to change a bad habit. No more or less.
As you know, self-judgement inspires very little. It doesn’t motivate you or elevate you. Quite the opposite. It depresses you. It keeps life very small and scary.
You don’t have to make yourself miserable anymore. Reach out to a therapist who will listen to your critical mind and help you change it… for good.

Check out this interesting idea on what a new Star Wars movie could look like

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Courtesy of:  at https://vijayvarman.com/

IF I COULD WRITE… STAR WARS!

Kicking off in 1977, the release of Star Wars (SW) and its 6 cinematic sequels (Yes, I’m not counting Clone Wars or the Ewok movies!) has undoubtedly been the single biggest influence on pop culture for the past 40 years.

Literally hundreds of stories have been told across a wide range of media covering thousands of years of galactic conflict. We are now just a few weeks away from the release of Rogue One, a stand alone story in the SW universe; and with a new SW movie expected every year for the foreseeable future, it is very much a franchise that is here to stay.

Writing a SW movie has always been a dream of mine, and with Disney wiping the Expanded Universe from the SW history books, it led me to think: What would my Star Wars story be?

So let’s go on a journey into…

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Ask any child (hell, ask anyone) who the heroes and the villains are in the original SW trilogy, and they will swiftly tell you that the Rebels are the good guys fighting against the evil Empire.

But why do we think that? Why are the Rebels good and the Empire bad? Good and evil are rarely that simplistic. In reality almost everything can be seen “from a certain point of view.”

My Obi-wan Kenobi quotes notwithstanding, we only get to see the SW universe as external viewers. But within the SW universe, it’s hard not to see the Rebel Alliance as…Continue Reading 

Artisans In The Andes Of Peru

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LEARN MORE ABOUT THEIR WORK AND MISSION WITH THEIR ARTISANS IN THE ANDES OF PERU. HANDMADE PRODUCTS DIRECT FROM ARTISANS @ www.craftedperu.com

Check out this article, courtesy of: https://craftedperublog.wordpress.com/author/craftedperublog/

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WE ARE CRAFTED PERU

We at Crafted Peru strive to create opportunities for indigenous artisans of the Andes to earn income by bringing handmade Peruvian products to the American market through long-term trading relationships. It has been a wonderful five years since we started this journey, and we’ve learned so much from all of the people we have met along the way.

Our community is formed by artisans that are masters of their own unique type of handcrafted products from all over Peru. We use all-natural products found in and around our hometowns in The Andes of Peru to create our unique pieces. Crafted Peru’s handmade holiday ornaments are carefully made using the same natural and simple techniques used by the Incas. Artisans use homemade tools to create the ornaments, on which they carefully draw, hand-paint, and then carve. Up to 6 hours of time per ornament by each artisan goes into each creation.

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Our process is very unique since the entire Crafted Peru team is involved in every step, from choosing the materials we are going to work with to delivering the products to stores in United States. Crafted Peru believes the best way to know Peruvian culture is through the workmanship of our artisans. Each artisan transmits their life’s experiences and personality into each piece, which makes each one unique.

Before Crafted Peru, many Peruvian gourd farmers had a difficult time finding work since the demand for this art was decreasing year by year.  We first helped two families to start growing gourds, and now they work directly with artisans, providing them with the raw materials to create our holiday ornaments and other gourd products.

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Each year, we increase production to meet the demand for our products. Our artisans and their families are able to enjoy a much more comfortable life thanks to the profits we make selling our ornaments at Whole Foods Market.

Not so long ago we were only working with four artisans to create our beautiful ornaments. Now we are working with ten different artisans who benefit from the sales of Crafted Peru goods.

Crafted Peru has created a huge impact on the farming communities of the Andes. Families can now afford to have a better life and improve their houses and make them safer for the winter season.

To keep artisans diversifying their skills, it is very important that they always create income regardless of the time of the year. This is why we helped them to learn how to hand knit, so they can also create hand knitted ornaments. Some of the artisans are creating new winter lines (hats, gloves and scarves) with their new knowledge.

Visit http://www.craftedperu.com to see the full Crafted Peru line and to learn more about how Crafted Peru helps artisans in South America.

Bad Exercises For Sciatica

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8 Bad Exercises To Avoid For Sciatic Nerve Pain

Courtesy of: http://www.jointessential.com/8-bad-exercises-to-avoid-for-sciatic-nerve-pain/

Hand on hamstring musclesDo you feel the sensation of tingling and numbness in your lower back? Would you describe the radiating back pain as someone is pricking you with needles and pins? Does the incapacitating pain worsen when you cough, sneeze or sit down? If you are experiencing all these symptoms, then it is most likely that you are suffering from sciatica. The good news is that there are various exercises that will help you to alleviate sciatic nerve pain.

Sciatica is a symptom which is mainly signified by the pain in the sciatic nerve. Due to the vital role of the spinal cord, it is extremely essential to avoid bad exercises that will put more pressure on the spine resulting in worsening of the condition.

What Is Sciatica?

what is sciaticaSciatica is a syndrome which is commonly experienced as pain radiating from your lower back till the back of your thighs. The pain is usually spread along the pathway of the sciatic nerve. This is the longest and largest nerve present in your body and is as thick as your finger.

The sciatic nerve extends from the lower back, till your buttock and down to your legs. The sciatic nerve divides into two branches when it reaches the knee and ends in your feet. To make things more clear, sciatica is not a disorder but rather it is a symptom that signifies a problem associate with the sciatic nerve. There are two common types of sciatica listed as follows:

  1. Acute Sciatica – This is known as short-term sciatica, lasting for about 6 to 8 weeks, which does not require any professional medical attention. You can easily alleviate the unfavorable symptoms by opting for over-the-counter (OTC) painkillers.
  2. Chronic Sciatica – This is the long-term sciatica which requires professional treatment ranging from physical therapies, medications, exercises and other techniques.

What are the symptoms of sciatica?

The primary indicator of sciatica is pain radiating from the sciatica nerve. The symptoms may range from mild to severe and sharp pain around the spine region. The most common symptoms of sciatica are mentioned below:

  1. Numbness in both the legs.
  2. Tingling feeling in the feet and legs.
  3. Sharp burning sensation radiating from the lower back and upper buttock extending down till the legs.
  4. In severe cases, walking becomes a painful experience.
  5. Sensation of pain increases while bending or walking.

What causes sciatica?

The most common cause of sciatica is herniated intervertebral disc. The term herniate means to stick or bulge out. The role of the spongy intervertebral discs is to protect the spine and act as a shock absorber. Sometimes, due to injury or aging, the discs are ruptured which puts pressure on the exposed sciatic nerves resulting in the blockage of smooth blood flow to the region below your waist.

This is the main cause of inflammation and numbness experienced in this condition. Other causes include:causes of sciatic nerve pain

  • Cauda equina syndrome – This is an extremely rare and serious form of disorder which damages the nerves present on the lower side of the spine. Due to the compression on the spinal nerve roots you may experience numbness in the lower back. In some severe cases, it may damage the nervous system which results in paralysis. It is commonly categorized as a surgical emergency and you will need to consult a doctor immediately.
  • Spondylolisthesis – In this disease, one of the bones in your vertebra slides above the bone below it. This commonly occurs in the lumbosacral area which is the lower spine region. This automatically compresses the nerve roots which results in numbness of legs and back pain.
  • Lumbar spinal stenosis – This is a slow and gradual process in which the spinal canal starts becoming narrow. The narrowing squeezes the spinal nerves which triggers the symptoms of the sciatica. The treatment for lumbar spinal stenosis depends on the severity of the disorder. In initial stages painkillers, exercises and various non-surgical procedures are ample to treat the condition. However, in extreme cases you might need to undergo a surgery for treatment.
  • Tumour – Tumour in the spine may compress the root nerve which gives way to the sensation of numbness and tickling in the region below the waist.
  • Spinal injury – Any form of injury within the spine may result in sciatica.

8 Bad Exercises To Avoid For Sciatica Nerve Pain

Doctors recommend exercises as the best ailment for treating and fighting the unfavorable symptoms of sciatica. Researches indicate that exercises prove to be of immense benefit which should be given more priority than bed rest. The main aim of exercise is to provide conditioning in a manner that it prevents recurrence of pain in the near future.

If you continue the normal routine of rest for a prolonged period of time, then your back bones may become weak and will be less likely to provide support. This is a process of de-conditioning which is experienced when you go without exercising or moving your spinal structure for a long time.

As important as exercise is for the health of your spinal discs, you need to understand that not all exercise regime will compliment your disorder. Thus, you need to be extra careful to avoid exercises that may prove to be detrimental for your condition. Some of the exercises that are a big “NO” for you to indulge in if you are suffering from sciatica are listed as follows:

  1. Standing hamstring stretchHeavy stretching of the hamstrings – The hamstrings muscles are extremely sensitive in this condition. While stretching the hamstrings muscles, you are also stretching the sciatic nerves indirectly. As such, this will only worsen the injury caused by the compression already exerted on them.
  2. Bent over rows – One of the causes of herniated discs is linked with the posture maintained in the bent over rows exercise. This exercise has drastic impact on the health of your spine and may upset its structure. The main reason for spine injury occurs due to the immense pressure exerted on the spine during the bent over rows stance. The pressure damages the intervertebral discs which expose the root nerves leading towards inflammation and infection.
  3. Straight legged sit-ups – If you notice, the main pattern that is observed in exercises causing sciatica usually seem to exert excessive pressure on the already sensitive spine region. Straight legged sit ups is another exercise which comes under the category of vigorous exercising that upsets the structure of spinal cord. This aggregates the inflammation and numbness experienced in the region below the waist and in extreme cases, permanent nerve damage may also occur.
  4. Abdominal stretches – This is another exercise linked with worsening the condition of sciatica. The stance of stretches applies pressure on the back bone area which gives way to compression of the sciatica nerve pain. The common complain experienced by abdominal stretches practitioners who are suffering from sciatica is nerve irritation. Thus, it is advisable that you avoid this exercise completely during the course of sciatica treatment.Abdominal stretch exercise
  5. Full body squats – Another exercise that you need to discontinue if you have sciatica disorder is full body squats while standing accompanied by barbells on shoulders. This is an extremely harmful exercise which is associated with various lower spine damages. The weight of the barbell exerts pressure on the lower back which causes compression of the spine nerves and damages the intervertebral discs. You might suffer from irritated nerves and even herniated disc if you continue doing this form of exercise with sciatica. The pain distributes from the lower back and extends to the buttocks and legs.
  6. Heavy dead-lifts – Weightlifters are often addicted to heavy dead-lifts but the addiction and dedication that they assign to their physical well-being often goes astray when they cause damage to their spinal cord. Heavy dead-lifts is another form of exercise that may result in spine injury if it is not discontinued after suffering from the painful syndromes of sciatica. Heavy dead-lifts is one of the major contributors to lower back pain and is also associated to cause the complications as experienced in sciatica.
  7. leg lifts exerciseWeightlifting exercises – People suffering from sciatica usually add weightlifting exercises as part of their daily exercise to ensure smooth movement of the spinal cord. However, it should be thoroughly noted that these form of exercises should be done by offering support to the lower back. Otherwise, it will create problems for your condition.
  8. Leg exercises – According to a research, people suffering from back pain should avoid exercises such as leg lifts and leg curls while facing downwards.  Any exercise with heavy weight lifting will automatically put pressure on the lower back region which instigates the symptoms and complications of sciatica. Also make sure that you avoid exercises that put your back in the stance of acting as a fulcrum such as keeping legs straight during exercises. This puts excessive pressure on the spinal cord and may worsen the condition.

The main aim of sciatica-friendly exercise is to strengthen the back muscles. This makes it fundamental to consult a professional fitness trainer who can draft a healthy exercise regime for your sciatica nerve pain.  If you want to work out on your own, then you will need to remember the 8 bad exercises to avoid for sciatic nerve pain.

You should focus your energy on exercising the region surrounding the sciatica nerve rather than pulling direct pressure on it. An excellent example of such an exercise is the pelvic tilt which is perfect for the sufferers of sciatica nerve pain.

Courtesy of: http://www.jointessential.com/8-bad-exercises-to-avoid-for-sciatic-nerve-pain/

SAYING YES TO YOU

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This is fantastic, check it out… Courtesy of: http://rosemarydavey.com/saying-yes-to-you/

Did you know that when you say yes to you, you say yes to everyone?

I know that may seem selfish yet when it is a yes to enhancing your life and your being, it is contagious and others will be able to say yes to their true desires.

Wouldn’t that be amazing, everyone enjoying their true desires?

Desires that enhance your life, that make your eyes shine and your heart sing. I’m not talking about egoistic wants… now that would be selfish.

Scott and I were just talking about this…

I bought a warranty for a vacuum cleaner that I thought was too expensive, yet when I checked in with my knowing it felt like a true yes to buy. The warranty was at a discount and it gave us some holiday rewards. We decided to use the holiday rewards for a weekend away that logically wasn’t at the right time due to work and other commitments, yet once again it was a yes.

While we were away, it rained and rained. The restaurant at the hotel we were staying at was closed for 1 of the 3 days and we weren’t able to do what we had planned because of the weather. However, there was an open fire…

When Scott was younger he loved watching the fire… absolutely fascinated… and when we were on our weekend away that love was rekindled.

We now have an open fire in our backyard that is giving us a lot of joy and I have a happy husband.

Sorry if that was a bit long winded but if I hadn’t trusted my knowing about buying that particular vacuum cleaner, who knows what would have happened to our relationship?

I’m joking a little because I know that there would have been other opportunities, yet why pass up on saying yes to you? What is stopping you from saying yes all the time?

When you say yes to you, you also get a chance to say no without feeling guilty.

I remember a few years ago, a friend of mine was coming over to visit and she rang at the last minute to say that she wasn’t coming. I was a little annoyed because I had rearranged my day to fit her in and her excuse was that she simply didn’t want to come over today.

I am so glad she trusted herself to yes to her because during that time that I was supposed to be spending time with her, I meditated, and during that meditation, I received an idea that expanded my life considerably! I acted on the idea immediately and it changed my life and the lives of others in ways that I could never have imagined.

Say yes to you whether someone wants you to or not.

Write down all the things that you would like to do in your life over the next few months.

Is it to go on a course? Is it to visit friends and family? Is it to experience something that you never imagined you would do?

And then write down all the reasons stopping you.

Ask yourself if these reasons are enhancing your life or diminishing it?

Are they allowing you to say yes to you?

Are you willing to say yes to you despite these reasons?

Are you willing to take action on your yeses?

Are you willing to follow your yeses to allow your desires to manifest?

Are you willing to keep saying yes when everything is showing you that it can’t possibly happen?

I have so many things on my “YES!” list that I have no idea how they are going to be realised. I simply know that if I keep following the energy of the yes, it will show up in a way that I never imagined and of course that will always be better than what I’ve planned.

All of these yeses are in your energy field.

They are there waiting for you to embody the energy and all you have to do is ask for it.

Ask for your Angels, Guides, your Higher Self and God’s help. They love helping us get what will allow us to say yes more often. They have fun with this stuff and it could be something that you could play with as well.

Have you ever played “Reach” when you’ve lost something?

I do it all the time and I do it for my yeses that are yet to appear.

Put your hands out in front of you as if someone is going to put something in them. Imagine your yes, your desire in your hands and say, “Reach”.

It is then up to you to follow the information you receive to allow your desire to come to you.

It’s almost like a game of Marco Polo where you are constantly given hot or cold messages until you reach your desire.

Start with things you know you will find, keys, purse, etc. Then move on to things that are a yes for you to manifest.

Have fun with it and let me know what you bring into your reality from your energetic world and of course if you need a little assistance, I’m always here to lend a hand.

Loving you… Loving life…

Rosemary Davey

Rosemary Davey lives with her husband Scott and her fur babies in Western Australia. She has a background in Mind Body Medicine and Holistic Counselling and uses tools and techniques in her programs to enhance the relationships in your life.